Questions to Simply Avoid on A First Date
May 16, 2019
When going on a first date, in many circumstances, it is best to circumference the topics of conversation. First dates can be nerve-wracking obstacles, so it's always a good idea to plan out what you do and more importantly what you don't want to say during that tender first-hour to two-hour period.
We have developed a handy list of questions that you should simply avoid at all costs on your first date no matter how tongue-tied, nervous, or chatterbox you might become.
1.Why are you still single?
Even though you may be attempting to flatter a female in such a manner as if implying that she is so wonderful, it's difficult to believe that she is single, many women may take offense at the implication that there is something wrong in being single. There is no right way to approach this subject, so it is better left avoided.
2.How much money do you make?
When on a first date, it is normal to talk about each other’s careers, but it is considered intrusive and very unseemly to pry about one’s salary. In doing so, it raises red flags and portrays you as a possible money hungry opportunist.
3.What is your most embarrassing moment?
While being self-assured and confident are great personality traits, there is such a thing as oversharing, especially on a first date. Besides if we share the real nitty gritty early on, what will be left for future dates? Try to leave some mystery on the table and remember no one want to share about the worst home waxing experience on their first date no matter how bold they may seem.
4.How many people have you been in relationship with?
This question is simply rude to ask and especially on the first date. Even if this was not your intention at all, this question seems to be very judgmental and is likely to make your date feel uncomfortable the rest of the evening, and your date is entirely shot.
5.Where do you see this relationship going?
Your nerves must be shot, or you have had the absolute worst dating experience in all of history if this is the kind of question you find yourself asking on your first date. First of all, you must recognize that you are on a date, you are not in a relationship, but hopefully, your date will take pity upon you and answer with some clever, witty retort, such as, "I see it going to dessert…" Possibly then, you will become aware of your grievous error. This is a way too much pressure to put on someone at the very first date.
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At this point, if you haven’t totally blown it, it would be a good time to laugh off your enormous faux pas and quickly change the subject.
If you are making any of the above blunders, it would appear you suffer from acute first date nervous syndrome. Perhaps you might ask a mate to practice first date conversations with you and go through some trial runs until you feel a bit more stable. Remember, create a list of topics that you would like to talk about, and ensure that the majority of them are inquisitive about your date and want to get to know her. If you avoid the above topics on your first date and practice a few times, you will be a first date pro within no time at all.